Tuesday, October 19, 2010

I'd like your opinion......

When we were in 'my special country' I found this hat at an outdoor market for Artiom. This is his 'gotcha day' picture.....The hat had tassels on the top and sort of looked like a gesters hat. But we noticed pretty quickly that the way he is always flapping and dancing made him look like a clown with this hat on. So we took it off.

Then a couple of weeks ago I read 'The clown of God' and I didn't know how to feel about it at first. But the more I thought about it, the more beautiful it became to me.

Thursday, September 30, 2010
The Clown of God

This passage is from a book entitled, The Clowns of God, by Morris West. In
book, a deposed pope has gone through many trials and tribulations and it is
time of the Second Coming. When he meets the Returned Christ, the former pope
afraid and unsure much like the apostles when Christ first arose. This passage
takes place in a mountain hideaway where children from a school for Down
Syndrome are among those present. The Returned Christ is speaking about one of
these children as he holds her.

"I know what you are thinking. You need a sign. What better one could I give
to make this little one whole and new? I could do it; but I will not. I am the
Lord and not a conjurer. I gave this mite a gift I denied to all of
innocence. To you she looks imperfect--but to me she is flawless, like the bud
that dies unopened or the fledgling that falls from the nest to be devoured by
ants. She will never offend me, as all of you have done. She will never
or destroy the work of my Father's hands. She is necessary to you. She will
evoke the kindness that will keep you human. Her infirmity will prompt you to
gratitude for your own good fortune... More! She will remind you every day
I am who I am, that my ways are not yours, and that the smallest dust mite
whirled in the darkest spaces does not fall out of my hand... I have chosen
You have not chosen me. This little one is my sign to you. Treasure her!"

But....I can see where it might not sit right with some people. Especially if the child is yours biologically (?) ....I don't know. Maybe it makes a difference, maybe it doesn't.

But for me, with my adopted child, I thought it was beautiful and made me love him even more.

But does it sit well with you? Does it offend you? Do you feel defensive that someone is referring to your child as a clown?

I've been thinking about it for a while now and still haven't come to a solid conclusion....

But Toma is wearing his hat today :)

So...what do YOU think??


  1. First of all, as for the hat itself, those hats are totally "IN" here! I think they're adorable.

    We call Angela a clown all the time, because she is. As for kids who have DS, most parents will tell you their kids who have DS have a very funny sense of humor and are, indeed, clowns. There is some VERY old artwork (think "the last supper" time period, I'll find the links for you) That depicts the angels as having DS.

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  3. I think that's beautiful! My family is bringing Jenny home from Reece's Rainbow, and even now I don't think of it as offensive! DS kids are just lovable in general!

    our blog is www.hope4everychild.blogspot.com

  4. For those who are new to having kids with disabilities, you'll need to get used to "people first" language. They're not "ds kids". They're kids. They just happen to have ds. Ds (or whatever their diagnosis) doesn't define them or make them who they are. It's part of them, but it doesn't define them. All kids are lovable, kids who have Ds are no more or less loveable than any other kids. It's kind of like saying, "Kid's with Ds are so sweet!" And they are! And they are cranky, and ornery, and the full range of emotions....just like every other kid in the world!