Toma saw his first fireworks tonight!
I 'think' he liked it.....it's hard to tell with him. He doesn't interact at all.
In fact, that's a hard thing about him. He doesn't show affection AT ALL, never has. He is a gentle little soul, but it's hard to 'connect' with him.
I see other kids brought home that are little cuddle bugs and I turn a little green with envy.
It's been 4 1/2 months and he still doesn't seem to give a hoot about me.
Rich reminds me that God makes everyone 'special, and unique' in their own way....and I 'know' that. But it still would be really nice to have a little emotional interaction.
Plus, remember, he doesn't speak. So no communication either.
I know things take time, but I have to wonder if it's ever going to be any different. Honestly, I don't think it will.
But even if he stays exactly the way he is, I'll love him anyway, and always feel so blessed to have him.
some days you want pecans, some days you want walnuts...and some days you just get stuck with peanuts.
Have you looked into a communication device for him yet? Nintendo DS or an Itouch? If so, you can put Tap2Talk on it! It can be customized however you want it! I'm already working on it for Ianna! I'm down in Eagan, but could bring it up to show you how it works if you wanted to try it out. It's much easier (and CHEAPER!) that something like a dynovox or other communication devices.
ReplyDeleteOk...I see I only typed half a sentence! (chalk it up to sleep deprivation. ) that should have said, "Do you have a Nintendo DS or Itouch? If so, you can put Tap2Talk on it!"
ReplyDeleteHi Jodi,
ReplyDeleteIf it makes you feel any better, my bio daughter with Ds RARELY wants to hug, snuggle, etc. with me so this has been a real treat with Nadia. I think it might be a sensory issue with Josi (the whole touch thing). Nadia doesn't seem to need ANY personal space. ha ha
It also may take Artiom a little longer to come out of his shell than most kids because of the hearing/communication issue. I know HE knows you love him, though. How could he not???
(Wait a minute. You're not spitting at him or anything are you? I've found that that leads to decreases in shows of affection.)
I hear you. I feel like Stas doesn't quite absorb the loving quite the same b/c he can't hear me. I have been mourning his lack of hearing and hoping that that changes.....like really praying! I am hoping some day he talks and someday Ricky talks.
ReplyDeleteIt is at those moments when I mourn that I say thank God he is with us and not in that OTHER place....who by the way said his ears were just fine!
I agree with the suggestions to find ways for Toma to communicate if he cant use words. There are also therapeutic interventions that can help Toma engage with you and learn how to interact and communicate, such as Floor Time and Theraplay. If you know how to engage in joyful play with a young child they are not difficult to learn!
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